Xenia’s Dream Husband

My dream husband composite

I have been watching so many movies about love over the past few months that I was moved to really take a look at what my dream husband looks like.  Not that I have never thought of it before because I most certainly have.  I always wanted to get married and share my heart and soul with another.   I imagined hundreds of times throughout my life walking up the aisle in my dream wedding dress to meet my Prince at the altar.  Together we speak our vows to Love, Honor and Cherish each other all the days of our lives.   If you missed my recent post about the men I had crushes on in the past you can read it Here.

As I became more familiar with the works of Jane Austen, Elizabeth Gaskell and Catherine Cookson I decided to delve more deeply into what it is I have always been looking for in a man.  There are certain love stories that I am deeply drawn to over and over.  If you have been following my blog then you already know that I love Elizabeth Gaskell’s North & South and  Jane Austen’s Persuasion.  What is it about the hero in these books that I find so appealing?  What is it about these stories as a whole that draws me to them over and over?  What is it about the last two episodes of The Vicar of Dibley that makes it so special to me that I can watch it again and again?

The heroes that I keep coming back to read about in books or watch are John Thornton, Harry Kennedy, and Captain Frederick Wentworth.

Mill owner John Thornton is a stern taskmaster, but he does care about the welfare of the people who work for him.  Mr. Thornton’s love for Margaret Hale caused him to become a bit softer in his demeanor.  In the end Mr. Thornton revealed a very romantic and loving aspect of his personality.  Throughout the story there is no mistaking his sense of honor.
Harry Kennedy is the handsome stranger in The Vicar of Dibley.  I see him as a modern-day Mr. Thornton.  Harry has the same honorable personality, but he is quite a bit more playful and easy-going.  Harry Kennedy also has a passion for books and reading.  I love that!  Give me a man who loves to read.  Harry also has a love for the outdoors.  He seems to appreciate the beauty of the earth that surrounds him and enjoys taking walks.  Another thing that I love about Harry is that he was an absolute gentleman throughout the entire time that he courted Geraldine.  Yes, I know it was a very short courtship, but still Harry did not put pressure on Geraldine to get her bedded down before they got married.  Most men have no idea how TIRED that is to many women.
Captain Frederick Wentworth with his beloved Anne in Persuasion.  During the Captain’s eight years at sea he never forgot Anne or stopped loving her.
There are several common threads that all of these heroes share.  Besides being good, decent human beings all of these men responded to the soul to soul connection that they felt towards the heroine.  It went far beyond sexual attraction although that is certainly there for them as well.  The soul to soul connection reaches beyond the third dimension into the fifth. Almost immediately you know within you that the other person is your beloved.
The love that all of these men had for their beloved also never faltered.  It remained constant.  Even when there was separation or the mistaken belief that their beloved pined for another, these men were steadfast instead of giving up and running to the next woman for physical release.  I believe with all my heart that if you remain constant that your beloved with come to you because you are sending out those signals from one soul to the other  The soul of your beloved will recognize and feel the love and light that is emanating from your heart.
John, Harry and Captain Wentworth all have no problems expressing themselves either.  If you love someone, let them know it.
The other character in the collage on the top of this post is Lucas North of MI5 (Spooks), but I added him only because I think that Lucas is one handsome and sexy looking man.  There is no harm in that is there?   Lucas North is married to his job though and any woman who comes into his life is only temporary.  Lucas choose his job over his wife Elizabeta.  If Lucas gave the kind of love, dedication and devotion to a woman as he gave to the organization in MI5 he would be one heck of a husband and his wife would be the LUCKIEST woman in the world.  I don’t want to come in second to a man behind his job, but I sure as heck want him to be handsome and sexy like Lucas North.  I think all of these men are handsome and sexy but Lucas North takes the cake for me..   Of course we all know that British actor Richard Armitage is also John Thornton and Harry Kennedy so maybe I should just replace Lucas North’s name with Richard’s…hee hee
If I take the good looks of Lucas North (Richard Armitage) and put it together with the character of John Thornton, Harry Kennedy, and Captain Wentworth that is the perfect man for me and the only man who I want.